We tend to get pretty upset at our current set of circumstances…I know I do.
But…
- our actions or inactions
- things we say or don’t say
- coupled with the things we’ve seen, or haven’t seen
…can shape our future decisions and current perspectives.
Our current circumstances are likely a result of the things from our past, that are now affecting our present situation(s). Life is a fickle thing, and it’s deceived me more times than I can count.
It’s usually a hard pill to swallow when I feel like someone is over-correcting, overblowing, overstating, over exaggerating, the things that I’ve done in the past, that led them to make the decisions that they are currently making. It’s unfortunate that people do in fact over below situation and overreact. But what I’ve had to accept it by myself, as if I never did anything to give the person something to react to, I will likely not take such issue at the way they chose to deal with what I made them react to you.
Wait…I don’t even understand what I just wrote. Let’s try that again!
I have had some impact on the shitty behavior I’m NOW dealing with from others! Yeah, that’s better.
So, if you’ve found yourself in a situation that you don’t find very favorable, whether you agree with it or not, it would be a good idea for you to take FULL inventory of what the other person said you did, and the rationale that they’ve used to make the decision(s)
- to put you at more distance
- bring you closer
- loan you less money
- bring you fewer snacks
- no longer cosign for your bad credit
- stop inviting you to their house for gatherings
Overall they are just a different version of the person you met. It’s a tough pill to swallow but everything we do, good, bad or otherwise will have an effect on your present situation.
Be reasonable and be well!
